Over the years, many have struggled with the same issue Sophia.  Only in recent years did I have the same problem as you.  We actually suspended the bylaws a few years ago and had developed a team to look at the situation.  After the SHVL conference last year, several of the volunteers stepped forward to take officerships!  Attending the conference actually helped them see the need of keeping together.  But we are hanging on by a thread.  We concluded with the auxiliary needing to remain as an entity because the gift shop is a business and it belongs to them.  I feel like the officers are developing and we can go forward but the auxiliary board has suffered.  We now call the remainder of the auxiliary board positions that were chairman of services "scheduler/trainers" so that other volunteers are not feeling like another volunteer is telling them what to do.   With a lack of auxiliary leadership, now I sense they are becoming lost.  We don't meet as often with the auxiliary board and no longer have the mentoring that we need.  I am so busy trying to be a full time gift shop manager, coordinator and director, that I have had to let some things go.  Every time I turn around I'm in the gift shop. 

I have been with the hospital 30 years and in volunteers services about 28.  I am looking at retiring but also want to see the legacy carried on.  I realize it is time to change but want to make sure it is for the good of the auxiliary and the hospital.  I put something out on this forum several years ago the same as you but really didn't get any replies.  That was when we decided to attend conference.  We found out that many were as lost as we were.  We met auxiliary presidents who had been in the same position for six years because they couldn't get anyone to fill the spot.  Many of the officers remained the same and were just hanging on. 

All I can say is be proactive and ready to move and change when the possibilities arise.